Hard as I try, I’ll never be a perfect mother.
No Perfection in Motherhood
I think we need to come to a place where we finally accept that reality. We beat ourselves up so much about something that simply is not within our reach; that is just not reality. There is nothing we can do to change that fact. Sin is ingrained in our very beings, just like blood running through our veins. I thank God for sending Jesus to cleanse us of something we couldn’t do ourselves.
It’s not about accepting defeat or even accepting sin, but accepting reality and learning to live within our imperfections. How do we deal with them? There are some things within our reach.We can work to keep the connections between our children strong and constant. We can do that, we must do that, especially because of our imperfections.
We’re bound to mess up and make mistakes. Even when we learn from our mistakes, we’ll make new mistakes. Yet, we can remain connected with our children by owning up to those mistakes. We can keep that bond tight by admitting when we’ve wronged them. When we’ve yelled at them or overcompensated a consequence.
Heart to Heart Connection
Our relationships with our children go deeper than just follow the leader. Yes, setting an example is important. But connecting with our children, heart to heart, will make a greater impact then being far removed from them and trying to get them to follow us.
When I sit and read a rich, historical fiction or literature book with my children, I’m making a connection with them through time spent learning together. We’re growing together because even I learn new things through reading new books. It also opens up discussions that can shape their growth.
When I have a short fuse and yell, I am trying to being more intentional about stopping and apologizing for being short with everyone. Children are wonderful forgivers. They really are. We should remember to forgive well when the situations are reversed.
No parent is perfect. Period. And we will never reach that place. But connection is definitely within our grasp and we should be quick to utilize these opportunities often.
Our children are eager to follow someone, and they can only follow us if we are actually walking out our faith. Talking about all the things we should be doing, without doing them, will only teach our children to be hypocrites.
I am going to be super intentional this week to make sure I’m making those connections with my children. We are starting a new curriculum today that focuses on God being in the center of all things. My goal is to go deep with my children and hang up my own agenda so I don’t feel like I’m rushing them through their lessons just so “we can be done.”
More and more this verse keeps coming back to me,
Be very careful, then, how you live–not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Ephesians 5:15-16
I cannot think of a time in my life when the days were more evil then they are now. I don’t know if it’s because so much of it was hidden or if I was just unaware as a result of being immature or a mix of both. But we are living in very troubled times and the future is so uncertain at this point. I want to use my time wisely.
Keeping My Writing In Its Place
I wasn’t going to post today, because I honestly didn’t have it in me to write. But I had this post mostly finished already in my drafts.
I love writing and I love blogging, but I want to be able to say “no” when I just don’t feel like writing, or when I don’t have the time because I was busy snuggling my kids passed their bed time to read them just one more chapter. Blogging needs to be an extension of my life, not replace important moments.
Writing is still a part of who I am, but not all my writing goes public. Sometimes the pressure to post publicly can just be too overwhelming and it’s within my power to be OK with not posting for a week.
This week, I’m making the most of it and being intentional about connecting with my children.
Do you struggle with being intentional with connecting with your children on a daily basis?