When You’re Tired of Being Out of Control

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Many of my frustrations lie within my inability to control most situations. From our adoption, to selling our house, to the dog barking incessantly for what she wants until she gets it.

God Controls the Wind

Out of {My} Control

It’s frustrating to me because I’m simply unable to control these situations. I cannot control how my kids will react when I tell them what I’m making for dinner, or when it’s time to pull out lessons, or when I tell them they cannot watch anymore TV. Their reactions are out of my control. I can discipline them and teach them, but ultimately the decision is up to them.

It’s exhausting to constantly hold on to what I think I can control because when I’m unable to control it, I become frustrated. I take it personal. I don’t understand why things can’t go the way I expect them to.

Sounds kind of like a toddler having a temper tantrum, doesn’t it?

The only thing I have in my control is what I choose to believe about where God has me in this season and how I choose to act (or react) as a result. Will I choose to believe that He has my best interest at heart? Even if I don’t get what I want when I want it, so to speak?

My best interest may not be what I think it is.

There are so many circumstances that are just out of my control, yet I continue to hold on and try to navigate things I don’t even have access to. It’s like trying to drive a car from the passenger seat. I don’t even have a steering wheel, but somehow I think my ranting, complaining, whining, and woe-is-me attitude will move the car in the direction I want to go. And quite frankly, it’s exhausting.

“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am in the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without me you can do nothing.” John 15:4-5

Not Our Burdens

I see a pattern of this behavior when I’ve allowed myself to try to do things on my own. Like I’ve allowed myself to become disconnected from God and believe that I need to do everything and control every situation. But that’s not how God designed us. We have to remain in Him or we cannot do anything. That’s not to say that we’ll be able to control things, quite the contrary. We’ll learn to give up that control and be OK with it.

He never meant for us to carry such a burden and trying to control everything is a burden. Most of what we want to control really isn’t in our power to control anyways. The illusion of control does nothing but drain us of energy and joy.

When the wind picks up or changes direction, God still holds on to us, directing us to fall in with the wind. We can choose to follow His leading, or be crazily blown about trying to gain control of what we cannot control. When God calls us into the air, He’s the one controlling the wind, not us.

Mommy Control

This is no different in motherhood. In fact, I think in some aspects it’s amplified. And because we may have this illusion of control, when things don’t go our way, it can cause some major frustrations, leading to mommy anger that gets vented on our children.

I have been doing a lot of reflection on my own mommy anger and it’s root cause and I have a feeling I’m not alone. I also know that I’m tired of constantly trying to control things I really have no control over. There is a big difference between influence and control. We lose control through anger when we feel like we’ve lost control of people or circumstances.

I will be diving more into this in the coming weeks. Please tell me I’m not alone. It’s not that I am eager to have an epidemic of angry moms, but rather a movement of moms who recognize the root of their anger and want to eliminate it. I think for many of us, it starts with control.

Mothering by Heart

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Do you tend to be attracted to books or posts on how to mother better? I know I do. I’m curious to know if anyone has successfully implemented the strategies laid out in these books. I’m not knocking them, of course (hey, I read them, after all!).

But I’m curious whether these books were birthed from families who were so successful in their particular methods that maybe they were convinced it would work for everyone (or most everyone)? Because let me tell you, I have yet to implement any one method successfully.

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Behavior Modification

Many parenting books focus on bad behaviors and how to modify them. They offer step by step instructions and formula’s that must get results, or the parent is doing something wrong. But these books lack a vital component: knowing the heart of your child.

As a result, I’ve learned to focus more on behavior then connecting with the heart of my children.  Maybe mothering is not so much how to as it is to know. It’s easy for me to fall into the trap of focusing on behavior modification. I don’t just want my children’s behavior to be modified. It’s not enough and if it were even possible, we wouldn’t have need for a Savior.

So what is possible?

What does mothering look like when we take our focus off the behavior and shift it to their heart?

Mother-to-Child Relationship

As children of God, He calls us into relationship with Him. In fact, our relationship with God was so important to Him, He made a way for us to remain in relationship by taking care of our sin since we couldn’t do it alone. At all.

Do I now expect my children to perform when I can’t even do it myself? My mothering has been reduced to a list of do’s and don’ts. While there is definitely a place for that, it’s not the starting place.

It starts with being in relationship with my children; building a real connection with them. By understanding their own hearts, their own fears, their own desires, their own convictions and leading them to repentance so they can be restored. Jesus reached out to the unlovely because of love. He chastised people who were so focused on following the rules, they missed God in the flesh! They missed out on being in relationship because they didn’t see their need for a Savior.

Are our children missing out on God because they haven’t learned about their need for His grace?

Our children’s behavior can be unlovely at times–just like ours. But we cannot lecture or punish them into perfection. We must lead them to the cross of Christ. Only Christ can turn hearts toward repentance–to Himself.

And there are some things that God has instructed and asked of us as mothers. We are absolutely called to discipline our children, but how much more will they receive it when their hearts are turned toward ours and towards Christ’s because of that relationship?

Mothering by Heart

Mothering by heart means knowing our children’s hearts and pouring into them as Jesus poured into His disciples and those he encountered who wanted more of Him. Not knowing them from afar, but connecting and interacting with them. Not just filling their heads with knowledge but by living life, playing, creating, and working together.

There is a practical way to walk this out, but it requires that we listen to the rhythm of their hearts. When a child lies, why are they lying? Punishing them for lying may not be enough to purge it out. What is the underlying reason for a child to lie?

Sin will always be a part of us while we’re living this life, but that doesn’t mean we allow it to have it’s way in us, or our children. When we deal with a behavior from a child, it’s typically a maturity issue, not always a sin issue. Children are learning as they grow what is right and what is wrong. They are learning how to express themselves acceptably and respectfully.

Our children require a lot from us at every age and every stage, and when we fail to meet those nurturing needs, they often respond with negative behavior. Sometimes, we are the ones who need the chastisement because we need to set things aside so our children’s need of us can be met.

Motherhood requires a pouring out of self, every single day, consistently. It isn’t just a one time deal in order to change behavior. Bad behavior is often a symptom of something deeper. A need unmet. Misunderstanding or miscommunication, etc.

Mothering by heart requires that we seek out what these deeper issues are so they can be changed.

Do you struggle with merely behavior modification, too? What area do you think you can reach your child’s heart on a deeper level?

Some real, down to earth books on mothering  I recommend:

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Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson

The Mom Walk by Sally Clarkson

The Mission of Motherhood  by Sally Clarkson

The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson

Ten Gifts of Wisdom by Sally Clarkson

Discipline & Discipleship Webinar by Sarah Mae & Sally Clarkson

The Delight of Motherhood

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Motherhood is hard and requires we recognize our responsibilities and obligations, not only to our children, but to God. Yes, we have responsibilities under God. They are prevalent throughout scripture.

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The Delight of Motherhood

And there is a delight in fulfilling that duty. But our ultimate delight in motherhood comes from our delight in the Lord. If you desire to be a good mother, a delightful mother, you must delight in Him!

Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

There is much joy in motherhood. And honestly, I am writing this after a rather trying day of being a mother. But I’m learning that where we found our joy is the key to making it an ongoing blessing in our lives. Finding joy in my children’s behavior alone is going to bring me on quite a roller coaster ride…where there will most likely be way more downs than ups.

Our children are going through a growing and maturing process just like we are. They will never be perfect and basing our joy on their outward behavior will only leaves us empty and, well, joyless.

Likewise, basing our joy off our own performance will leave us shortchanged every single time. Joy doesn’t last on the performance of people or the circumstances of our lives. So placing it there simply isn’t wise.

First, Delight in the Lord

Joy is from the Lord, when we have our eyes fixed on Him. Joy is found when we recognize our purpose is from Him and not our own personal endeavors or desires.

Job raises some great questions,

Will they find delight in the Almighty? Will they call on God at all times? Job 27:10

Delight in motherhood comes from that deep understanding, embracing, and walking out of the role God has given to us, but only after recognizing our life is in Him. 

I know that my joy can easily be stolen when I depend on it from the wrong places.

I delight in motherhood when I delight in Him, first.
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A Mother’s Duty

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A Mother’s Duty

When we think about responsibility and our roles as mothers, there comes with it the reality of duty. Duty is not a dirty word. Duty is recognizing we have an obligation we are expected to uphold, whether we feel like it or not. God has given us the role of mother, to care for , teach, nurture, discipline, and disciple our children.

This is not something to be taken lightly. And believe me, I know it’s not an easy role. But never once were we ever promised an easy life. In fact, I think to expect such a thing is truly far-reaching. It’s impossible, even if we try to control all our situations, eventually hardship will find us. Or we are majorly neglecting areas that need more attention in our life for the sake of ease.

A Simple Life

My husband and I have taken multiple trips with our children to a local historical village that allows you to go in and out of the old houses and shops from the mid-1600s to early 1900s. Some of the exhibits are actually live which means they have people dressed up in clothing from that time and literally cooking meals they would have cooked in the way they would have cooked them.

We always leave the village longing for a simpler life. People back then, they literally worked in order to eat and survive. The women spent all day cooking a meal to feed their family because that’s how long it took! The work was rewarding and family time was valued. Today, rather than working to survive, we work to entertain.

The Value of Work

We want everything to be as easy as possible, to take the load, off so we can chase our own desires. And I promise you, I am just as guilty of this as anyone. Why do I want to work in the kitchen all day preparing meals when I can get it from a box and it takes 20 minutes?

This has proven to be completely unfulfilling in my own life. Why? Because God didn’t create us for a life of ease, and when we take shortcuts we lose something of value in our role.

I understand we live in a fast-paced culture and society. It’s almost inescapable. There are pressures in all directions beckoning us to do one more thing. The busy life is hurried indeed. But the decision to follow that flow is entirely up to us. We do not need to engage in everything society does (or even everything we or our children want) in order to become successful people.

We don’t need to reject all modern conveniences either, but I  believe there is something of value to learn from the days of old. I believe we lose something when we take shortcuts. And I don’t think all the tools and gadgets are all necessarily for our good. Not sin, just not necessarily profitable. (1 Corinthians 10:23)

The sluggard craves and gets nothing, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied. Proverbs 13:4

I’m not saying we can never do things out of convenience; but less is more.

We Have an Obligation

So, what is the duty of motherhood? It’s to embrace our calling and wholeheartedly walk in it. It’s to recognize that we have an obligation to our children to pour into them. And I can promise you that it won’t be easy and recognizing this fact will help us know that when things are hard, we’re in the right place.

All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty. Proverbs 14:23

Poverty is more than financial. We lose much when we aren’t putting in the work required to nurture our children.

…a child left to himself shames his mother. Proverbs 29:15

 

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How to Sow Into Your Children Individually

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Our children are individuals. If you are a mother to more than one child, it can be easy to lose sight of this fact. As a mother of many, I have been prone to fall into this trap. There are ways we can sow into our children as a group, such as making good meals, having family read alouds and family game nights, taking them out to special places, etc.

4 Ways to Sow Into Your Children as Individuals

But as individuals, they have more specific needs that we need to meet. Here are just four factors to consider when sowing into your individual children.

Sowing just means to plant seed for. We are planting seeds for a robust harvest of many kinds of “fruit”.

Age

This is probably one of the more obvious factors but age has a lot to do with what we sow in and how we do it. Currently I have five children living at home who are all biological. They are 3, 5, 6, 8, and 11. My 3 year old does not require the in depth conversations my 11 year old does. He is happy just to have me sit and watch him play or help him with a puzzle. On the other hand, my 11 year old loves to pour out all her ideas on me and one way for me to sow into her is to listen and encourage her in these ideas.

When we do Bible reading, my younger children will not understand the deeper meanings of the Bible the way my older children will. I sow Bible stories and simple truths into my young children while I encourage conversation and critical thinking with my older children.

Clearly these look different from each other and this are just a couple examples. The more time you spend with your children individually, the more you will see their needs and the best way to sow into them. Conversely, when you see a child misbehaving consistently, this could be a sign they need you (or dad, or both!) to pour into them. These little seeds will bloom beautifully later!

When our two adopted daughters come home, ages 8 and 10, new needs of sowing will be present.

Personality

Some children are talkers and some are listeners. Some are thinkers some are doers. This will be another deciding factor of the best way to sow. My six year old is an affectionate guy and he needs me to sow in hugs, kisses, and cuddles. He needs affirming words and encouragement.

My five year old is active and needs plenty of good ways to be active. Failure to sow into her need to be active leads to lots of unreleased energy channeled in the wrong direction. It could result in more serious problems later in life if I do not sow into her self-discipline and healthy direction.

Passions

Our children will have passions for different things. What can we do to sow into them? Do they enjoy art? Sow into that passion by offering space and supplies to create–but even better than that is sitting and creating alongside them! I think art is a lot more forgiving than music or singing!

My daughters love to dance and my boys like baseball. Those are the extracurricular activities we allow them to do.

My six year old has a passion for music and wants to learn guitar. We are sowing piano lessons for him (first) so that when he is older, God can use his gifts for His glory.

Helping our children live out their passions isn’t enough on their own. Those passions need to be directed down the right avenue. We need to train our children how to be open to God’s calling on their life and seek what He would want them to do with these passions that would glorify Him.

Gender

This factor may not weigh in until our children hit a certain age, but eventually, it will come into play how we sow. And mothers and fathers will sow differently.

I believe this factor requires lots of conversation sowing. Lots of talks about life and roles. What does God expect from each gender and how should they respond? How can our daughters be excellent wives to their future husbands? One of the best ways to sow this seed is to lead by example. Let your daughters see you being an excellent wife to their daddy.

All of these things factor into how we can sow into each individual child.

There are a thousand little ways to sow. Our goal is to make sure we are sowing the right ways into the right children for maximum growth. We also need to make certain we are sowing into fertile soil. One way to prepare the soil is to pray for our children.

Resources:

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What way can you add to this to sow into your children? What individual need do you see standing out in your individual child?

7 Ways to Conquer Your Morning Routine

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Mornings are the time of day when my children thrive. They are most awake and most alert and it’s the best time for lessons and learning and all things the [potentially] disciplined mind requires. The house is wide awake with wonder and that curiosity needs direction.

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As a blogger, my first inkling is to jump on the computer and sip my coffee while browsing the new posts filling my Facebook timeline and my Twitter stream. It doesn’t matter how well laid out my plans are or what the schedule is for my children. If I am not actively involved in directing them, they lose focus easily and nothing gets accomplished.

There are 7 things I aim for to help us stay on schedule, especially in the mornings when we are all at our best.

1. Wake up early.

This is probably the most important foundation for me in getting a great head start on the day. Ironically, I do not consider myself a morning person. However, I recognize that this is the best way for me to get ready for my day in a variety of ways. It allows me adequate time to wake up, spend time with Jesus, drink some coffee, and be prepared when the children wake up.

2. Look over my schedule

Maybe it seems redundant, but if I don’t look over my schedule everyday, I easily forget what I’m supposed to do. Parts of my schedule change seasonally, so it’s not hard to forget what lies ahead for my mornings. Looking over my schedule allows me to make another mental note of what I can expect.

3. Don’t sit down.

This may sound strange, but for me, if I sit down to do something, such as check Facebook, I struggle to get back up. I need to keep moving in order to keep up.

In fact, I need to be dressed in real clothes and shoes in order to be motivated and remain productive.

4. Complete a task before moving to the next one

I really try to complete one task before moving on to the next one. If I leave half a dozen projects undone, I don’t accomplish anything.

If I’m working through homeschool lessons, I cannot stop in the middle to work on a cleaning project. I’ll lose the attention of my children and it’s hard to get it back! I’m not talking about taking a break, but getting distracted.

5. Avoid distractions.

Don’t stop to do research on curriculum while you’re homeschooling or look through photo albums while you’re cleaning. Distractions kill productivity. Stay focused and stay on task.

6. Follow up and inspect my children’s work.

It does no good to set our children off to do their chores or independent lessons if we do not follow up and check on their work. Make a habit of this and we’re sure to create laziness in our children who are unsure of their expectations and lack accountability.

7. Be all there.

Find joy in your schedule, don’t just mechanically get through it. The schedule is a guide in order to help us maximize our time and accomplish the most important things. But if we aren’t all there, in those moments, we miss the point. When our heart is somewhere else, we will not give our children our best.

A combination of these 7 tips can make for a powerful, productive morning.

Resources:

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What tip can you add that helps you get through your morning routine?

Embracing Motherhood

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Motherhood is messy. It is not the ideal picture we see painted across blogs and other media. Often, it does not come natural in some aspects. What’s natural about constant self-denial as fallen beings?

Embracing Motherhood

When we embrace motherhood, we will need to let go of many of our own desires. It’s simply a matter of reality.

Embracing motherhood means embracing interruptions.

Embracing motherhood means embracing the training up of our children and the commitment required to accomplish that.

Embracing motherhood means learning how to make a dinner menu so you’re not stressing out the whole house simply because it’s a task you don’t particularly care for (ahem).

Embracing motherhood is saying yes to the child who asks you to play with them, even when your to-do list is a mile long.

A few things we as moms need to be keenly aware of:

The Age of Technology

The art and value of motherhood is easily lost in today’s culture, even among Christians. There are so many distractions and so much technology that relationships in the family are suffering catastrophically. And we’re blind to it. Not always by choice, but by simply being too close to it all and believing this way of life is normal because it’s an age where everything is acceptable.

Technology can be an excellent tool, but it can also be our worst enemy in many different ways. We obviously cannot ignore the fact that our children are growing up in a world saturated with technology. While some aspects are necessary tools in order to navigate our world, there are many elements that can be drastically minimized or eliminated altogether.

Don’t allow a computer (any computer: iPhone, iPad, included) to replace special moments with your child. Use them as enrichment or supplement, but do not allow them to do your job of nurturing. We do not want our children turning to Google or chat rooms to learn about life. They desperately need to learn from their mothers (and fathers).

If this is something you could really use direction in, I highly recommend Sarah Mae’s eBook (affil link), The Unwired Mom.

Our Own Dreams

Mothers have dreams, too. Many go unspoken from fear of feeling selfish. Having a dream is not selfish in and of itself. But if not tended to properly, it can quickly escalate to that and become all-consuming.

As a writer, I am surrounded by other mom writers. In fact, I encourage mom writers! But I’ll be the first to tell you that it is not hard to get sucked into the vortex of it’s depth. There are different seasons of our lives, and the heart of motherhood is not the season for throwing ourselves full force into our own dreams (unless that dream involves the whole family).

I am blessed to have 3 children thus far who love to read and write about as much as their mama. So I capitalize on that by allowing us all time to brainstorm, write, and read alongside one another. I realize this isn’t always possible, but if it is possible to allow your children to be a part of your dream, I highly recommend it because it makes the dream God has planted in you all the more sweeter.

The Need for Discipleship

I hate to say this but the sad truth is that discipleship is sorely lacking in homes. Part of this issues goes back to our saturation of technology. Parents get lost in it and fail to actively disciple their children. We’re sucked into staring at screens while our children wander aimlessly, without direction.

The word is our daily bread. If we aren’t feeding our children, chances are we aren’t feeding ourselves either. Likewise, if we aren’t feeding ourselves, we probably aren’t feeding our children either.

Moms, please hear my plea to make time to, not only read the word, but create space to live it. We cannot live out God’s calling for us as mother’s if we are not regularly connected to the Source of Everything, and in turn, teaching our children how to knit their hearts to Christ.

Technology can never do that for us or our children. There is no shortcut to discipleship. It requires discipline on our part and we must impart that to our children.

Embracing motherhood requires letting go.

Motherhood is glorious. But we need to embrace it to see this. We must let go of many things in order to make room to truly appreciate and walk in motherhood.

Resources:

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Motherhood Requires Submission

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As a mother, there are a lot of choices I need to make. The role of motherhood requires that I submit to it. It does not come without duty or responsibility and to ignore it is only to fight against the submission required to fulfill that role.

I really think it all begins with attitude. When we embrace the call of motherhood, fulfilling it will not be a battle of the mind. There are a few key things that motherhood requires us to submit.

Time.

It’s no surprise that motherhood requires time out of us. But it’s not just time to care for the physical needs of our children; you know, eating/drinking, bathing, sleep, etc. It requires time invested into nurturing their hearts and souls. They need our time to know our love.

This doesn’t mean a mother should never have some time to herself. I think it’s vital for the health of the mother that she does set aside time for herself.

But the reality is, motherhood requires copious amounts of time from us. This is something we really should embrace and not fight against.

Emotions.

Motherhood can make emotions rise in you you never knew existed. Oh yes. And they can betray us because we are raising children here, not immature adults.

Our children are constantly in a state of growth and maturity. They are children, and they will do childish things. This should be expected, allowed, and room offered to grow. A child should never be shamed for not knowing better, rather a child should be trained and instructed.

Anger and frustration will only make things worse.

…for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:20

Intention.

In order to mother with purpose and vision, we need to mother with intention. We need to have some direction. The Bible provides all we need to guide our children. In addition, there are very wise teachers who have written out of their own experience, in light of God’s word, who can help us with very practical ways to intentionally mother our children. One such author is Sally Clarkson.

We should be mothering proactively, not reactively. We shouldn’t wait for problems or struggles to arise before teaching and training our children about them.

Will unexpected things happen? Yes, absolutely! We won’t be able to perfectly cover everything. But we can minimize a lot of surprises and equip our children to face temptations armed with Scripture and practical steps of walking away or reaching out.

Will You Embrace the Reality of Motherhood or Resist It?

Motherhood is a journey, for our children’s hearts, and for our own. We can either embrace our calling and live it to the fullest; allowing God to shape our hearts to be more like Him through service and sacrifice. Or, we can resist and live in a constant battle of the wills; flesh against spirit.

Have you ever prayed that God would make you more like Him? Isn’t motherhood the greatest opportunity for that?!

There is no peace and no rest when we do not submit to what God has for us–in this case, motherhood. It’s a high calling and the most important mission work we will ever do. Embrace it.

Bible Study for Moms – Part 3

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You can read part 1 & 2 here:

Part 1: Intro

Part 2: Shift Your Perspective

Useful Bible Study Tools

Today I want to share a couple Bible study tools that are helpful and useful for Bible study. While not necessary, they make studying the Bible more in depth, organized and focused, at least for me.

Since beginning the Thirty Days of Bible Study for Busy Mama’s, I have obtained this new tool for Bible study.(Affiliate links are present within this post)

Bible Study Tools

It has really helped my colorful personality to have something fun to mark up my Bible with and make certain things really stand out to me. Before I purchased these, I tried using regular Crayola colored pencils and I really had to press hard to get them to show up. This can actually result in tearing pages in my Bible. So when I received the Prismacolor pencils in the mail, I was happy that the color was quite rich. I didn’t need to press real hard to get it to show up.

Well worth the little extra cost and since these are only used for Bible study purposes, they will last quite a while.

This Bible Study book itself is a tool. It helps me dig into the Word in a more focused manner; in ways I may not have thought of on my own.

Here’s what a typical day from the Bible Study for Busy Mama’s – Colossians 3, looks like:

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Each day, you will read Colossians 3. Then you will re-read it looking for specific things in the passage. In this case, it’s making a list of all the things that we are to throw off as Christians. All negative commands.

Bible Study 2

This study I began before I had my colored pencils. So you can see I used regular pencil to square off the negative commands.

Bible Study 3

Spending time in God’s word helps me remember His truths on a regular basis. In addition, I feel a heart connection with Him. His presence stays with me, even when I’ve closed my Bible, in a much richer sense. I have a greater sense of peace, simply knowing I’m not alone, because reading His word reminds me of His promises.

Other tools include:

Highlighters

Journal

Commentary

Concordance

Series:

Bible Study for Moms Part 1 {Intro}

Bible Study for Moms Part 2 {Shift Your Perspective}

 

Bible Study for Moms – Part 2

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Busy Mama Bible Study

Shifting Your Perspective

I think there are many wrong mindsets that can bog us down. I’m battling some of them even now. I know the truth, but trying to get myself to believe it by living it is proving to be a challenge.

At the same time, I want to be careful I’m not throwing out the wheat with the chaff. While I know some things are toxic, some really just require a bit of priority shift and discipline.

Disciplines are important, but not at the expense of a heartfelt relationship with Christ.

We need to understand our motives. If our motive is solely duty, we will dread our time in the Word, or never do it.

However, it is important to understand we are called to obedience and staying in the Word is an act of obedience as well as an act of the will. Having a discipline is simply a tool to help us remain in the Word. It is very easy to allow our time with God to slip away day after day if we haven’t set up a specific plan of action to read.

It is so important to understand how disciplines work, though. They won’t all look identical. There is no law written that you absolutely have to do your quiet time with God in the morning. I have definitely found benefits in doing this, but truth be told, not every season will allow for it. And it’s a legalistic notion if one thinks that’s the only time to meet with God.

Some people thrive just as well in the evenings as others do in the mornings. Some can only find a quiet moment during nap time during the afternoon.

Which leads to my next point.

There is no set time to be in the Word or prayer.

Something is always better then nothing and a small study or concentration on a verse can really pack a punch. The reason I am loving this Thirty Days of Bible Study for Busy Mamas is because it’s about a 5 minute per day study and it really packs a punch. You study an entire chapter for a whole month. You really dig into it a little everyday and it has to be the best Bible study in 5 minutes I have ever come across. I can use this study as a guide for future studies of my own.

The goal is to be fed, not spend a certain amount of time reading everyday. Anybody can read for an hour and not take a thing away from their time in the Word. That’s not our goal.

But here’s the thing…

While we don’t want to be legalistic about spending time in the Word — how we do it, when we do it, or where we do it — we cannot neglect our time either and be lazy or complacent about it. We still must do it. Not out of duty, but out of need. Consistently avoiding or neglecting our quiet time will soon prove disastrous.

Think of your house. It doesn’t matter when you clean, just so long as you are cleaning. It doesn’t matter what system you set up or how you clean. But when you stop cleaning, the house will slowly become quite messy and chaotic. It will be noisy and become cluttered. It will be harder to find things, and keep the dirt up when there is stuff all over. You will find it’s harder to walk because there is stuff all over the floor.

So it is with our mind and spirit when we neglect them. Our mind becomes cluttered with worldly thinking and it will be harder to find the Truths we once read. We must read continually to keep our hearts tidy with Truth; to defeat the lies of the enemy and of the world; to have a clear path to walk down that is not littered with garbage, making the path unclear.

Don’t mistake legalism for lifeline.

What lies are you battling regarding your own need to be in God’s word?

*Doorposts gave me a free copy of the above Bible study for review. Links are not affiliate, however.