Is There a Balancing Point?

As I read the wrap up section for “Surprisingly Satisfied” in The Resolution for Women, I was captured by what Priscilla said here:

By choosing contentment, you’re not getting rid of your desires, you’re just demanding that they assume an appropriate, humble position in your life, not bossing you around like a tyrannical dictator forcing you to submit to his ever-growing and ever-changing list of demands.

It means you no longer allow your yearnings and aspirations to control you, to rob from you the full use of and gratitude for what you’ve currently been given, leaving you unable to enjoy this because He hasn’t seen fit to give you that. pg. 29

I also want to add: allow yourself into a place where His desires become your desires. Because ultimately that is the goal And if we rest in His desires, contentment will naturally follow. We’ll be content because we know we are in a place God wants us and we are resting in Him and submitting to Him.

When we gripe and complain, ultimately, we are telling God we aren’t happy with where He has put us, and really, we know better than He does. Yikes! I certainly don’t want that. I am not the Potter. I am the clay. He molds me–not the other way around.

At the bottom of that same page, Priscilla says this:

 It’s a balance. A holy equilibrium. A genuine gratitude for what the day brings, all the while maintaining a controlled anticipation for what tomorrow may offer.

That’s the safe, healthy place where contentment allows you to take root and take up residence. Instead of being manipulated by unrestrained discontent… {emphasis mine}

I disagree with these statements. Let me explain why.

First off, Jesus and His ways are the balance we are looking for; seeking Him first and allowing everything else to fall where it should. We cannot be fully satisfied in Him and have a set of our own desires over here, that we are anticipating.

We are encouraged to be content in all situations and to not worry about tomorrow. Allowing even a controlled sense of “anticipation” or being discontent as long as it’s “restrained” is still discontentment. We are to be content in all things. I believe allowing just a door crack is enough for our flesh to stick it’s foot in the door of this “unrestrained discontent” so it can slowly widen the gap.

No. We want to keep that door shut and remain fully focused on the now, and not allow any bit of dissatisfaction, whether controlled or otherwise. It’s still dissatisfaction.

The balancing point is Jesus and resting in what He has for us–not anticipating the next thing. It’s the only way to be fully in the moment; fully where we are now. :)

This section wraps up the first resolution in the book: Surprisingly Satisfied.

You can read about the first parts here:

{To Be} Fully Satisfied

Finding Contentment in the Now

Equipped With Enough

Announcements

A couple of announcements I want to bring to your attention.

Joyful Mothering will be closed for Christmas. Any posts that go up from now on are pre-scheduled {hence, already written}. You may see me laying low. I’m going to be working on some writing, a new project, and re-designing the blog. Woot! So, if you see my design disappear, do not be alarmed. It’s quite normal! I’ll be revealing the new design January 2nd, when I return to blogging.

 

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Finding Contentment in the Now

I have fallen into the trap more than once. “I can’t be fully content until I have this. This will help solve everything.”

And aren’t we in the right season for the gimmies? Even the sales lure us in. I know they do for me. We decide we will be happy if we could just have that one thing. That’s the problem with stuff. It’s fulfillment is but temporary before we find ourselves wanting the next thing and promising ourselves to be content once we have that.

It’s a vicious cycle and we never fully live where we are. We’re always looking ahead to the next thing we can have to satisfy us.

This includes tools we believe will help us as wives, mothers, homemakers, and homeschoolers. That doesn’t mean that God won’t (or doesn’t) bless us with these things, because we know He does.

God is able to make every grace overflow to you, so that in every way, always having everything you need, you may excel in every good work. -2 Corinthians 9:8

But it’s not something He desires for us to continue to dwell on and live discontented with. We will never rest if we are constantly wanting more.

Today we hear a philosophy of happiness that’s actually been training us for a long time not to be happy. It says there’s always something else, something more, some additional requirement we need before we can really enjoy life the way it was mean to be enjoyed. -The Resolution for Women, pp. 17-18

With as many times as we’ve heard how important it is to be content, to give thanks, to live fully where we are—how many of us are practicing this regularly? Daily? Hourly?

I am not. But I am pursuing…and will continue so. I have my one thousand gifts journal and I will give thanks, even when it’s painful; even when I don’t feel like it. I want to look deeper than the surface and recognize all is grace.

All is grace.

It wasn’t until recently I really understood what that meant. Click here if you’re reading in this in a reader or through e-mail so you can watch this video:

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Joy Is A Flame

Yesterday I was reading through One Thousand Gifts, by Ann Voskamp, the chapter titled, “go lower”. I nearly highlighted the whole chapter and just wanted to share some pieces of my heart (and Ann’s) here. I’m willing to bet some of you can relate. ;)

I am my own worst enemy. In trying to be a joyful mother, and all around woman, I have in fact snuffed it out. I have been holding on so tightly to my own control, that it has quenched the flame that is joy. I have been trying to control my environment in order to produce joy, yet in doing so I’ve only become frustrated when things don’t go my way.

Ann said,

Joy is a flame that glimmers only in the palm of the open and humble hand.

The open hand represents a surrendered life–one not tightly closed on to control and self. But that is just what my hand has been doing; closing out all possibilities for real joy because I’ve been trying to create a false version through my own strength–my own stage of life.  I thought that if I added things that made me happy, I would find joy. Well, things don’t make anyone happy for very long. Whether it is material items, knowledge, a hobby, girlfriends or anything else. None of these brings lasting joy when they are not preceded by Joy Himself.

The demanding of my own will is the singular force that smothers out joy, writes Ann.

Could this be any more true for me? I have been clinging to my own agenda, my own needs, my own “rights”, my own wants. But the truth is, I don’t own anything. None of it is mine to begin with. This takes me right back to gratitude. I can be thankful for God’s agenda, and that He provides for my every need, but I can’t be the creator of it.

Ann goes on to say,

God does not give rights but imparts responsibilities—-response-abilities—-inviting us to respond to His love-gifts.

Let go of trying to do, let go of trying to control…let go of my own way, let go of my own fears. Let God blow His wind, His trials, oxygen for joy’s fire. Leave the hand open and be. Be at peace. {Bold print mine}

Fullness of joy is discovered only in the emptying of the will.

-One Thousand Gifts

God gives us abilities–how are we responding to them? He gave me the ability to mother 5 children. Am I living the life He has called me to? Even more, He gave me the ability to worship Him, am I? It is not for me to do only what God can. It is only for me to obey–He does the doing. I want to open up my hand, the one carrying the flame [of joy] I am trying to protect, but am in fact suffocating–I want to open it so God’s breath can fuel it. I must surrender—everything.

Question: Friend, what are you holding onto today?

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A Dare For You

Many of you have already bought this beautiful book. But, in case you haven’t [or have never heard of it], might I encourage you?

If you’re looking to go deeper with God, this will help you.

If you’re looking to find joy, this will help you.

If you’re looking for a shift in perspective, this will help you.

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Blessings on this Monday, as I am off counting gifts of my own through homeschooling, home keeping, mothering, and being a help meet.

Journey with me?

Joy Comes With the Morning

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Though the sorrow may last for the night, joy comes with the morning!

I’m not exactly sure how it began, but somewhere down the line I thought I could rely on myself, my own flesh, to be strong enough for the difficult everydays. And everyday is difficult. Everyday comes with it’s challenges. It is a rare gift to have that exceptional day free of challenges.

But it is through these challenges I am learning to endure. Slowly learning, but learning.

His mercies are new every morning – friends, we have reason to CELEBRATE!!!

It is through all the challenges I must look for ways to celebrate His blessings:

18. still & silent evenings

19. cheery children

20. chattering children

21. being lead by the Spirit

22. Young Peacemaker curriculum (lifesaver in our home!)

23. a daughter with a beautiful heart – a heart to please Him

24. sacred time basking in His presence [in worship]

25. knowing that God hears my cries for help

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