6 Tips to Keep Your Home Smelling Fresh

6 Tips to Keep Your Home Smelling Fresh and Clean

Sometimes we don’t even know our house has a less than pleasant odor coming from it because we are there all the time. Maybe when you leave the house and return, it may hit you like a wave and you begin to search for it’s culprit. Here are six things I have found that can leave your house smelling less like delicious baked goods or sweet smelling flowers and more like getting a whiff from a garbage truck–along with 6 tips on how to keep it that way.

Dirty Laundry.

Laundry that sits and sits can leave a room smelling awful, especially if there are wet items left in the pile. Wet clothes start off with a mildew smell that is hard to remove once it forms. If it continues to sit much longer, that mildew turns to mold. You don’t want moldy laundry stinking up your laundry room, or any other room in the house.

Tip: Lay wet clothes, towels, and wash clothes over the bathtub or laundry tub to dry before tossing them in the dirty laundry.

Dirty Carpets.

The dirt that accumulates in the carpet and put off a dull, stale smell in the home. It won’t be a strong, in-your-face-smell like mildew, but it certainly isn’t pleasant. This happens when we fail to vacuum on a regular basis and/or we don’t wash our carpets with a carpet cleaner, once or twice a year.

Tip: Dust a sprinkling of baking soda on your carpet after you vacuum up the dirt. Let it sit for about 2 hours, and then vacuum. This is something you can do if you’re on your way out to run errands.  The baking soda will help absorb the smell without adding chemicals into the air or your carpet. Once you vacuum up the baking powder, your’re left with cleaner smelling carpets and fresher smelling air.

Dirty Dishes.

Dishes left in the sink day after day (even if you’re filling the dishwasher, but leaving certain ones behind), can smell up your kitchen. Food gets old and smelly very quickly. Sometimes we forget about cups with a little milk left in the bottom. We’ll leave the house and notice when we come home when a wave of rotten milk hits our nose. That’s like the worst thing to walk into (except maybe rotten baby formula!)

Tip: Gather all dirty dishes from around the house every evening. If something doesn’t fit in the dishwasher and it has food stuck on it, scrub it off while it’s still easy. At that point, you may as well just hand wash it and put it away.

Dirty Bathroom.

Can someone say gross? I don’t think I need to go into much detail here. A bathroom not cleaned regularly (read: daily) will quickly begin to smell all kinds of disgusting.

Tip: Wipe down surfaces and toilets daily. It only takes a few minutes. Then you don’t need to worry about buying those smelly plugins to cover up the smelly bathroom.

Dirty Stove.

Leaving your stove to clean another day, especially if you have a gas stove, can reek up the house. Gas stoves always have the pilot lit, thus baking on whatever food is left behind. The smell can be an awful, burning stench. Then it’s a pain to scrub off.

Tip: Wipe things as they spill whenever possible. At the very latest, wipe the stove down right after dinner. Keep the kitchen smelling fresh by eliminating the odors, rather than covering them up.

Un-emptied Garbage Cans.

Forgetting to empty the garbage cans, even the little ones in bedrooms or bathrooms, can result in unpleasant smells. We don’t always remember what we throw into these cans, nor we do know what our children throw in them!

Tip: Empty garbage cans daily. Take them straight outside.

 

A Few Finishing Touches

A delicious smelling candle.

I love food scents, such as hazelnut cream, and I enjoy candles more in the fall and winter months.

Fresh cut flowers.

Lilies are my absolute favorite and I love having them mixed in with a spring or summer bouquet on my kitchen table.

Baked Goods and The Crockpot

Chocolate chip cookies. Fresh baked bread. A winter roast. Mmmm mmmm mm! Need I say more?

What other tips can you offer to keep our homes smelling fresh and clean?

I Don’t Want Rules to Rule Me

Satisfy Us

It’s that legalistic Christianity. Sometimes it sneaks in, even when I don’t want it to. After a while, the grip begins to tighten and life is just slowly sucked away into the striving for perfection and acceptance. It’s not that I try to be legalistic. It’s not that I would outright confess, based on belief, that I need to perform in order to be accepted.

But, I begin to dig a little deeper and wonder why I feel so heavy, constantly. Why do I struggle to enjoy the life God has given me? When did I start believing I had to feel guilty for enjoying life through the mess? Not excuse myself for complacency  but learn more about grace and what it means to rest in it.

I’m not interested in being an uptight wife and mother; nor am I keen on being all carefree either. I just want to rest in Christ and be with Him. 

I just feel like there is a constant tug-of-war effect going on inside me. I want to be on the side of Jesus, not on the side of Law. I want to be on the side of relationship, not on the side of rules.

I want to enjoy my children and not worry about the mess left behind. I long to keep focused on the read aloud we’re engaged in without having my mind wandering to the mountain of laundry that awaits me. When did so much weight get placed on keeping the home perfect while starving the heart?

Why am I so worried about what everyone sees rather then focusing on maybe those things people won’t see–feeding the heart. Filling my soul with Jesus–filling my kids’ souls with Jesus. I need to train my heart to think on the eternal. To not worry about the mess when I’m in a place of teaching and reaching. The mess isn’t going anywhere. It’ll be there when I’m done.

I struggle so much with the “be all there” concept. And I don’t have an answer for how to change this mindset. I don’t know how I would turn this around, to be honest.

All I know is that I just want Jesus. I want to stop striving and start living. I want to start loving and stop lamenting. Just give me Jesus.

I can’t do it right–and I never will. But I can live a grace-filled life and have it pour over into everything else, transforming what I know. So this I pray,

“Satisfy [me] in the morning with your unfailing love, that [I] may sing for joy and be glad all [my] days.” Psalm 90:14

 

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A Gentle Answer eBook

I set out to write a series last October to accompany the popular 31 Days series that Nester hosts each year. But with the Allume conference coming up at the end of the month, I was kept pretty busy, so I wasn’t able to finish the series.

I started the series for myself, because I got tired of always snapping at my children. I thought it might be good to learn a thing or two from Scripture. Then, I thought an eBook of collective thoughts an ideas would make a nice devotional to offer my faithful readers.

So here it is! If you are reading this through your email or in a Reader, you’ll find the download link at the bottom of this post. It will NOT be hyperlinked. So look for a URL, copy it and paste it into your browser. Then save it to your computer. 

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But for those of you who are Kindle users or use Kindle apps, this eBook is made to be Kindle friendly! Did you know there is a way to send it to your Kindle or Kindle reader? Did you know you don’t need a Kindle to use the Kindle reader app? I have one on my iPhone that I utilize quite frequently.

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If you have an Android, you can still download the app. And if you don’t have a smartphone, no problem! You can download the Kindle app for your PC or your Mac. It’s a really nifty application to have.

So, how do you get the PDF to your Kindle/Kindle reader?

Follow the directions found for the Send to Kindle app. Super easy to use!

A Gentle Answer on Kindle

This eBook is a gift for mother’s who need help keeping a gentle tone in the midst of frustrations. It offers insights that we often don’t think about on the fly. I hope that it will help us all learn to pause and take a step back before we choose to respond to a child who’s having a difficult day (or many days)!

If you have not yet subscribed and would like to, all you need to do is enter your email address into the box at the bottom of this post or if you prefer to reader via RSS Reader (such as Feedly, which is my reader of choice), you can subscribe here instead.

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If you still have trouble locating the link or getting it to work, please email me at christin at joyfulmothering dot net.

I hope you’ll stick around and allow me to visit your reader or inbox. My goal is to encourage, inspire, and at times challenge you as a mother, as a follower of Christ, as wife, as a woman. You’re something special and you need to know it. This eBook addresses a time when I challenge you as a mother.

Embrace your babes today–they are a great gift.

Some Days I Just Want to Quit Homeschooling

The Imperfect Homeschool

{A more realistic picture would be kids scattered, a toddler screaming, and a complete mess of a house. But I didn’t think it was fair to my kids to post that, so I settled for this.}

Seriously. This couldn’t be more true this week. But I don’t want to scare you off from homeschooling, so please understand these three things before you continue to read this post:

  1. I didn’t choose to homeschool because it was easy
  2. Homeschooling is as rewarding as mothering; to me, they are one in the same (but still, not easy)
  3. See number 1

I have been homeschooling for about seven years. My first five years were solely focused on one child. A girl eager to learn and loved filling out workbooks. Once she was able to fly through the workbooks, we moved onto something more challenging and hands on.

Now I have five children, ranging in age from 11 down to 2. Homeschooling isn’t all that simple anymore. My second oldest, a boy, is not as easy going about structured lessons as my first born, a girl.

Throw an eager and active Kindergartner, a spirited and fierce preschooler, and a toddler (who needs no other introduction) into the mix, and you have the family circus.

The Family Circus

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I have come to a place in my homeschooling where I just feel like I’ve hit rock bottom and can’t seem to float back to the top. My biggest efforts go into trying to get everyone in the same place, at the same time, with the same focus. I’ve tried the one-room-schoolhouse idea and it just doesn’t work–or I can’t get it to work for us.

It’s easier to homeschool then it is to try to coordinate everyone to actually sit down and homeschool. Good days are not as consistent as the hard days. Sometimes I wonder how we get anything done at all.

Read Aloud Time

One of my biggest struggles and pet peeves is read aloud time. I love read aloud time with my children. It’s just that, as soon as I want to sit down and read to my older children, my two youngest get into a squabble and at least one starts crying loud enough to reach over my voice. I have tried different things to keep them occupied, but the attention span of a toddler and a spirited 4-year old is not very long, I’m afraid.

Math and Initiative

And if I say the word math out loud, the house fills with groanings beyond comprehension. Some days they’ll fly through their lessons, most days, though, it’s a battle. It doesn’t matter that we do the same thing just about everyday.

Without me telling my children what they are supposed to be doing, it won’t get done. Even if it’s written down for them. My youngest children (under 8), I can understand. Especially because they’re boys. They need direction a little longer. But my 11-year old daughter also still struggles with this, and honestly, this is probably more my fault then hers.

Other than a chastisement for not doing her lessons, she hasn’t been disciplined for skirting away from her responsibilities unnoticed–until I learn it later in the day when I ask to see her work. As the parent, it’s my responsibility to teach her responsibility by holding her responsible for being irresponsible.

So yes, perhaps part of our homeschooling issues are actually my fault. And this is why I love writing/blogging–writing this out helps me organize the issues to see them more clearly.

Small Children and Details

What it comes down to is simply that I have a lot of young children still and it makes getting through our lessons super challenging. I have to keep a consistent amount of interesting activities at hand for the littlest ones so I can get through formal lessons with my eldest ones.

At the end of some days, I realize we forgot to do some of the things we should have done–and I’m an organized person! Which leads to my next imperfection…

…I spend hours planning and I really struggle when we have to constantly throw away the plans because someone gets sick or we never made it to the library to pick up our books to go with our lessons.

And there’s attitudes–theirs and mine; there’s structure that I feel is always getting interrupted with “I’m hungry!

Not all of our homeschooling consists of structured and formal lessons. That’s probably only 1/3 of our homeschool. But it’s these times I find most difficult getting through–not because of learning styles or methods, but because of the reality of sin nature, personal agendas, and immature attention spans.

But…

Despite the hard days and the feelings of will my kids leave my house knowing anything syndrome, they are learning. 

My now six-year old began reading at age 5, full fledged chapter books, too–and I never sat him down with a formal phonics curriculum–or any phonics curriculum. He picked up on what I taught his older brother.

I currently have three readers and they all love to read.

Homeschooling is messy business–and I don’t just mean the crafts. A schedule looks great on paper, but in reality, it’s not that pretty. One day I’ll blog a day in the life of our homeschool — or maybe a week, to give you a more realistic picture, and you can see for yourself.

But I don’t homeschool because it’s easy — even though there are days I just want to quit. I homeschool because it’s the best option for our children. It is something God has equipped me to do, even if I feel completely inadequate.

The fruit of homeschooling may not always be evident right away. But being able to witness my child learn to read right before my eyes encourages and empowers me to keep pressing on.

I invite you to visit some other imperfect homeschoolers from the bloggers at iHomeschool Network.

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When Life Presses Down Hard

The Right Perspective

I don’t want to blow up minute issues (compared with some), but at the same time, these past couple of months have been quite hard and exhausting for us; physically and spiritually. I don’t like to blame Satan for every “bad” thing that happens. Some things just happen, I think. We choose what we make of it.

However, I do believe that Satan can wear us down with lies during times of hardship. Especially when they just keep coming. He can distract us from the things God is doing in our lives and have us focus on all the hard things we struggle to endure.

Instead, we are encouraged to rejoice in our sufferings.

We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us. Romans 5:3-5

I think God wants us to learn more then just a lesson during these times of struggle. These times build character and require that we press further into Him. It increases our prayer life (or at least it should). And sometimes, God is moving in mighty ways and these trials may serve as nothing other than a distraction. Anything to turn our attentions away from God’s work. Satan is a great deceiver.

We can struggle to focus on that which God has for us when we’re too worried about our circumstances at that moment.

We are in the final stages of our adoption and from a human standpoint, things could look rather bleak. But we must cling to God’s promise and pray through the remainder of the process. The other trials could very well distract us from praying and wear us down spiritually. The sickness, basement flood, knee injury (my 10-year old), spiritual heaviness, it is all taxing and distracting.

I am so weary to be honest. But I need to remember to remain connected to God through prayer and His Word otherwise I’m going to dry up and have nothing left. I’ll have no fight left in me.

When God calls us to something, we have a duty and responsibility to pray through it. Praying helps us to understand God’s heart for what He has called us to. When we pray against the schemes of the enemy, it can also help further God’s plan without delay or further trials that are just unnecessary and can be avoided through prayer.

It’s also important to remain connected to God in order to keep the right perspective. If we focus on the things of this world and how the world views them, we can easily lose heart. However, when we focus on the eternal things and how God would have us view things, it makes a huge difference in how we go about our days and how we pray. It impacts how we live our lives and how we raise our children.

When life presses down hard and Satan seeks to distract us, we must remain connected to God and not let fear or worry grip us. It will cloud the vision God has for us and the work He is trying to accomplish. Pray through the trials, but don’t lose focus of the main work He is trying to accomplish.

Is He preparing you for mission work? Is He preparing you for a family? A new baby? Adoption or Foster care? Whatever it is, do not forget to focus your prayers in those areas, even when trials come and seek to distract you.

Worms and Weeds {Homeschool Mother’s Journal}

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Early Mornings and My Latest eBook

This week I have been kind of just keeping afloat with life. Sort of treading water and reflecting on how to best run my household in light of our daughters coming home from Africa in the coming months.

I’ve also been busy working on finishing up the final pages of my latest eBook (which will be free for subscribers!). Monday begins the new session of Hello Mornings, so I was hoping to begin training myself to get up earlier, but my body is being rebellious. I’m hoping the accountability expected of me as an AC will get me out of bed on Monday.

Digging for Worms

Last week we started a brand new curriculum. The last two weeks have consisted of becoming acquainted with the new curriclum and smoothing out the wrinkles of our schedule. Kind of like the beginning of the homeschool year would look.

We homeschool year round so we don’t really have a “beginning” or “end” of year. We just roll with it. Roll with life. The weather this week has finally resembled spring, so we have taken advantage outdoors, digging in the dirt. The kids looked for worms and I began weeding my flower garden.

It was awesome watching my kids run in the house excitedly looking through nature study books looking for information on worms and slugs.

Weeds and Mothering Wisdom

I also spent time weeding my garden and I learned a few lessons about raising children as I noticed how some of the weed roots would entangle the plants. This resulted in pulling up the plant along with the weed. Isn’t it the same with our children if we are not careful? When we try to remove the weeds and aren’t careful about how, it can take some of the good out with the bad. Raising children is such a delicate process. One in which connection with them is imperative–not optional.

As I tried to pull up the weeds, some of them would only give the top of the plant, leaving the roots. If we only modify their behavior, what does that accomplish? We are only dealing with the surface of the issue, the behavior, and leaving the root, the heart. Eventually, the issues will resurface because the root of the matter wasn’t dealt with.

Roots and Behavior

My Favorite

My favorite thing this week was seeing my children grab books from our book basket and read on their own accord. This is very typical in our home, but it still makes me happy to see my children embrace a love for reading. All of my readers love to read. It is a gift to me and it is crucial for them as they learn and grow.

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I hope to have more structure to share next week. This week I really just allowed the children to explore on their own, while having just a few formal lessons.

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All About Reading {for your preschooler}

All About Reading for Your Preschooler

My 4-year old daughter loves to do things with me, especially while I’m trying to work on lessons with her older siblings. So, I thought it would be a great idea to get her a curriculum of her own.

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All About Learning Press delighted me by agreeing to send me their entire preschool pre-reading package to try out. We both LOVE it and I am super excited to be able to share this with you.

This curriculum helps me to be intentional to sit down with my preschooler and learn with her. If you have older children at home whom you homeschool, you know that the little ones don’t always get the focused attention in this area, and I’m learning, they need it just as much, if not more, than their older siblings.

Yes, there are a lot of freebies out there, but it costs a lot of time to go through and find everything you need. Some moms have that time and some don’t. This is something worth investing in, one way or another.

Lizzie 1 Craft

Imagine my daughter’s delight when I told her she could color on her finger with marker! She made cute fingerprint “peanuts” for her elephant. I love that it’s hands-on, but not overwhelmingly so.

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My two year old also loves doing this alongside his sister. It helps him learn to recognize each letter of the alphabet by name. It also helps him hone his crafting skills. Cutting, coloring, and painting are important for developing fine motor skills. These work and strengthen the muscles in their fingers so they can properly hold a pencil and write well in the future.

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All of my children got a kick out of me doing rhyming games with Ziggy the Zebra puppet (not pictured here *wink*).

This is a hands on curriculum–something I think is important to help with retention in young children.

The All About Reading Pre-Reading Deluxe Kit comes with a teacher’s manual, a student book containing the letters/craft pages, flashcards with box, 2 readers, Ziggy the Zebra puppet, two posters, a progress chart with stickers, a CD-R for letter sounds, and a handy tote bag to carry it all in!

This kit is well worth every penny and I love the time it helps me set aside to spend with my two youngest. They learn {with little preparation} and get valuable time spent with mommy!

If you have older children, All About Learning Press has higher levels of teaching reading. You can check them out here. I plan to get the next level up (Level 1) once my daughter completes this program. I find it’s quite affordable comparably and just enough work to keep her attention.

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Writing My Second eBook {a book for moms}

Yes. My second eBook is underway, and  it will be free for anyone who subscribes to my blog. It’s a devotional focused on changing what comes out of our mouths at our children through anger and frustration.

This is the photo I’m using for the cover. What do you think?

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This devotional, titled A Gentle Answer: Pouring into your children through words of grace, takes you through the heart of the matter, some of the consequences involved when we mess up, the reward behind using wisdom, and lots of grace through asking for forgiveness from our children when we DO mess up.

It’s devotional style, so one lesson per day, for 21 days (as it stands–there’s a possibility it could go longer). I use a scripture verse, draw from a little of my own experience, offer ways we can change our hearts, and practical ideas for walking it out.

I’m working hard to get this ready for release on Mother’s Day. This is my gift to you, my faithful readers and friends.

So if you notice things are a mite quite around these parts in the coming weeks, please know I am using my writing time to finish this eBook on time. I thank you for grace and I hope it will be as helpful for you to read it as it was for me to write it. I anticipate I will be going through this again and again to help me learn a new habit and a new way of speaking [grace] in the midst of frustrations.

Today, I share one of these lessons with you.

Day 12–Patience Shows Understanding

A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.  Proverbs 14:29

Patience. A concept I thought I would grasp after having five children, but no, the Lord keeps stretching me. The problem is, I think too much like an adult. When it comes to teaching and training my children, I expect them to think the way I do and know the things I know.

So when they don’t, I spout out frustrating words and quick-tempered tones. How foolish am I?

It is just not realistic. All of life shapes our thinking and teaches us new things. My children have not lived nearly as much life as I have, and certainly not in the same shoes as me. They do not know my experiences so they cannot be expected to know about life the same way I know about life.

I lack understanding with my children at times. I don’t take the time (patience) to gain perspective from them and understand they may not know certain aspects of life yet, or the way I know them. It is therefore my responsibility to patiently teach them. Use their own experiences to illustrate and even perhaps share some of mine.

When I was about 10 or 12 years old and was given a chore to do, I really did try my best to do a good job. But often my standard didn’t live up to the standard set up by those handing out the chores. So when I would get chastised, it devastated me.

As an adult, I need to remember that reality for when I inspect my own 10-year olds’ chores and they don’t “live up to my standards.” And that a mess that I might be able to break down in my head, can be extremely overwhelming to a child.

Taking this understanding, I can patiently teach my child how to break it down so that she, too, will not feel overwhelmed by a task.

When we understand our children, so much conflict can be avoided. So many power struggles can be minimized if we could just understand things a bit from their perspective. This will help us guide them rather than yell or unnecessarily chastise them.

What you can do:  Today, when you find yourself getting frustrated over the actions or attitude of your child, try to understand why they might be acting that way. What might you not be seeing that needs attention other than behavior modification? 

Work Toward Connection, Not Perfection

Hard as I try, I’ll never be a perfect mother.

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No Perfection in Motherhood

I think we need to come to a place where we finally accept that reality. We beat ourselves up so much about something that simply is not within our reach; that is just not reality. There is nothing we can do to change that fact. Sin is ingrained in our very beings, just like blood running through our veins. I thank God for sending Jesus to cleanse us of something we couldn’t do ourselves.

It’s not about accepting defeat or even accepting sin, but accepting reality and learning to live within our imperfections. How do we deal with them? There are some things within our reach.We can work to keep the connections between our children strong and constant. We can do that, we must do that, especially because of our imperfections.

We’re bound to mess up and make mistakes. Even when we learn from our mistakes, we’ll make new mistakes. Yet, we can remain connected with our children by owning up to those mistakes. We can keep that bond tight by admitting when we’ve wronged them. When we’ve yelled at them or overcompensated a consequence.

Heart to Heart Connection

Our relationships with our children go deeper than just follow the leader. Yes, setting an example is important. But connecting with our children, heart to heart, will make a greater impact then being far removed from them and trying to get them to follow us.

When I sit and read a rich, historical fiction or literature book with my children, I’m making a connection with them through time spent learning together. We’re growing together because even I learn new things through reading new books. It also opens up discussions that can shape their growth.

When I have a short fuse and yell, I am trying to being more intentional about stopping and apologizing for being short with everyone. Children are wonderful forgivers. They really are. We should remember to forgive well when the situations are reversed.

No parent is perfect. Period. And we will never reach that place. But connection is definitely within our grasp and we should be quick to utilize these opportunities often.

Our children are eager to follow someone, and they can only follow us if we are actually walking out our faith. Talking about all the things we should be doing, without doing them, will only teach our children to be hypocrites.

Intentional Connections

I am going to be super intentional this week to make sure I’m making those connections with my children. We are starting a new curriculum today that focuses on God being in the center of all things. My goal is to go deep with my children and hang up my own agenda so I don’t feel like I’m rushing them through their lessons just so “we can be done.”

More and more this verse keeps coming back to me,

Be very careful, then, how you live–not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Ephesians 5:15-16

I cannot think of a time in my life when the days were more evil then they are now. I don’t know if it’s because so much of it was hidden or if I was just unaware as a result of being immature or a mix of both. But we are living in very troubled times and the future is so uncertain at this point. I want to use my time wisely.

Keeping My Writing In Its Place

I wasn’t going to post today, because I honestly didn’t have it in me to write. But I had this post mostly finished already in my drafts.

I love writing and I love blogging, but I want to be able to say “no” when I just don’t feel like writing, or when I don’t have the time because I was busy snuggling my kids passed their bed time to read them just one more chapter. Blogging needs to be an extension of my life, not replace important moments.

Writing is still a part of who I am, but not all my writing goes public. Sometimes the pressure to post publicly can just be too overwhelming and it’s within my power to be OK with not posting for a week.

This week, I’m making the most of it and being intentional about connecting with my children.

Do you struggle with being intentional with connecting with your children on a daily basis?