Oooh yes…this is a sore point for me.
House work is my foe. It is never ending and I struggle to find any fulfillment or satisfaction in it because it is inevitable that when you spend two hours cleaning, it’s back to being a mess within 10 minutes. And I do not exaggerate–it’s been proven over and over again that this cycle is the only promising thing about house work.
There is no sense of accomplishment because nothing is ever fully accomplished. The mess keeps coming back!
And how easy is it to put blame on the beautiful blessings who can’t help but live life and make messes?
How do our words effect the home environment as a whole? Do they bring refreshing or are they cutting?
“You better clean that up when you’re done.”
“I cannot believe you trashed the living room after I just cleaned it!”
“Can’t you guys pick up after yourselves?”
Seriously, these are consistent phrases in my home.
What I am doing is setting up an atmosphere of fear because my children are afraid to do anything in the house because I might grumble about it! Am I making my children feel guilty for wanting to play and live life, because I have to clean up after them?
Sally Clarkson says in her new, co-authored book, Desperate:
A happy mom is a real gift to her children. A good attitude about work makes her children feel that she is glad that she is a mom and that she is thankful for her children. She communicates to them that even with a full workload, she is fulfilled and content.
She goes on to say,
The attitude I adopt every day has the potential to affect the whole demeanor of my home.
House work will always be there. It is something I just need to accept and work into my life. Putting blame on the children and causing guilt by my grumbling is not how I want my children to grow up and remember living in this home with me. It’s not worth it!
So, today, I resolve to not complain about the mess.
I do believe there will be a lot less coming out of my mouth!
And when it is time to work together and get things in order, I will do so with a positive tone so that my children do not feel beaten by my words because they have been creating life in their home.
Do you struggle in this area, too?